Tuesday, October 26, 2010

Resistance: What it is and What to Do About It.....

Resistance called boredom is still resistance.
Resistance called overwhelment is still resistance.
Resistance called working too hard and not getting enough is still resistance.

San Francisco, CA 07/24/2010

This Abraham quote made me think of a conversation I had with my "Mastermind Group" today, I sent this to them, and I thought I'd post my thoughts about it here too for all of my readers benefit also.....

I think many times we "think" we feel "good" but we still have a lot of "resistance" going on. And the more we know about the loa, the more we "let" ourselves want(cause now we know, or at least we believe more is possible for us), therefore the faster our energy moves.....and then.....and I'll paraphrase Abraham here, "when you hit a tree going 100mph as opposed to 20mph, it's a much bigger crash!

So, what's the solution with all this "little" stuff that gets "big" quick now......well, that's the WORK, our ONLY work that is of any importance at all; it is to constantly downplay anything that bothers us or others, constantly make a big deal about anything that feels at all good, make lots of lists of positive aspects, put EVERTHING in the MOST positive light we can possibly manage, make NO big deal about our mistakes, errors or mis-judgements, OR anyone elses, appreciate as much as possible every little thing we can, watch things on tv that make us smile, not growl:) or worry, and MOST IMPORTANTLY.....NOT BEAT OURSELVES UP WHEN WE FORGET TO DO ALL THESE THINGS, lol!

....and I invite all of YOU to please comment, question or add anything else that works for you dear readers :)))!

Friday, October 01, 2010

Convincing Yourself!

Are you convinced you actually CAN have what you want? Or has your life(thus far) convinced you that you can't, or at the very least, can't without a lot of work, education and time?! And I wouldn't blame anyone for this because so many popular self help gurus and authors, and even other LOA teachers, not to mention "mainstream common knowledge" tell us this is so! All that "massive action", work hard, keep trying etc.... bullshit we buy into all our lives!

And really, I'm sure they mean well, because maybe it's been their experience, but it's just NOT THE TRUTH!

I am here to tell you that in order to get what you want the only thing you have to do is truly convince YOURSELF that you CAN! After that it's a cakewalk since you are in complete alignment with yourself(what you want and what you believe you can have)!

After you get that alignment with YOU and YOU(the YOU here and now and the YOU you want to be, which technically you already are, but that's another story, lol!), then all your actions are inspired, fun, enjoyable, easy and natural since you BELIEVE they will WORK, and have a positive outcome!

Think about it, isn't it only "hard" work when you don't think it is going to net much reward, but if you think that what you do is going to totally work easily and quickly, then it is fun and easy too?!

And haven't you met and/or seen many people, even stars and celebrities who really didn't even have much talent be successful beyond belief???!!! I know I have, and I've seen this phenomenon in almost every line of work!

What is their secret, which is not a secret anymore since I am telling you about it, lol? It's the absolute, unswerving, uncompromising belief in themselves with total disregard to what anyone else thinks! Think; Lady Gaga! Need I say more, lol?! Oh yes I suppose she is talented and creative but totally WEIRD AND OUT OF THE BOX! She wore a REAL BEEF costume to the Grammy's! And I would bet any amount of money that there a about 100,000 other musicians that are just as good as she is, if not better! So, why HER?!

I actually read one of her interviews where she said that she used to tell everyone how famous and rich and successful she would be! She was totally convinced about herself and who she was and where she was going and.....about five #1 hits later she's right there!

So, we've ascertained convincing yourself is ESSENTIAL to success, but you might say, as I would have in the past; BUT I AM CONVINCED! Well, that is BULLSHIT, cause if you were totally completely convinced then you would be THERE!

LOA is ALWAYS reliable and consistent, ALWAYS! No exceptions, you get what you vibrate, and what you vibrate is a combination of the alignment between what you want and what you believe/expect!!!

If what you want is not totally consistent with what you believe, and therefore expect to have, then it is a NO SHOW! Period, end of story! Universe doesn't give based on just desire, or even talent and especially NOT on need(unless you believe you always get what you need;)!

LOA is just a mirror for your beliefs(which come from your thoughts), and expectations(which come from your beliefs)! Simple cause and effect here!

So, then how do you CONVINCE YOURSELF?! Well this is easier than it seems, BUT it does take some time(this is where some work and time comes in, sorry;), or maybe for you it doesn't, everybody is different:)!

1. You start telling yourself a NEW STORY! Oh, you don't totally need to lie to yourself at first, just tell your old story with a new better feeling twist! Anotherwords tell it with the victory at the end, tell it with all the "learnings" and "gifts" you've received that are of sooo much benefit to you now! Tell it with a deliberately positive slant, because I KNOW there's been a LOT of good stuff in your life and it has all led you here to knowing the LOA and actually getting some insight and tools that really work, lol :)!

2. Write a list of Positive Aspects(idea courtesy of Abraham-Hicks) of yourself foremost, how smart, clever, funny, talented, on time, considerate, caring, beneficial and helpful to others, etc.. you are! And I mean ham it up to yourself, really think of every little detail about yourself that could be considered good(to you or others) list them, and congratulate yourself! And even if you didn't always do or say the "right" thing you are proud of, give yourself congrats that you INTENDED the best! And even congratulate yourself for not giving up, and for all the "little" things you have manifested so far in your life and all the "real life education" you've received! And how you have SOOO MUCH IN YOUR VIBRATIONAL ESCROW NOW, and how quick it's going to show up now that you know what to do!

3. And third, just literally CONVINCE yourself by telling yourself every chance you get that you can have what you want, how good you are at what you do, how much you want it, how appreciative you will be of it, how it is sooo perfect for you to have it right now, how you are so ready for it, how it is perfect that it hasn't come til now cause you weren't ready for it "then", how good you feel about it, how good it's gonna feel, how it has happened for others who aren't even as good as you and how you know this "convincing secret" so it has to be close at hand now!

So DO IT....do the happy "hard" work of CONVINCING YOURSELF! And let me know how it's going for you and what shows up, or any other comments or questions etc....you may have about this post or anything else!


Tuesday, July 07, 2009

The HUGE Value of Our Emotions

Emotions ARE our gold! They are our personal guidance! Literally, they tell us which direction we are heading with our manifestations! They are like our own personal, always correct "compasses"! Negative emotions are literally "warning bells" telling us, OK, time to turn around and head in the other direction, and good feeling emotions are telling us, YES, you're going in the right direction, keep going! Sounds simplistic yes, but it really is that simple! Now isn't that the most clever, coolest "tool" that was ever created naturally?! Such a perfect design this Universe, isn't it?!

We ALL have all the knowledge we could ever need to create anything we want and it's ALL within us!!! Our only work is to "course correct" by observing our feelings about the things we want, and then progressively practice more, and more thoughts that give us feelings of belief, happiness and expectation around them!

The important part is to pay attention to, and VALUE our emotions, ALL of them! Does no good to judge them, thinking we "shouldn't" have them. They're there, feeling bad about having the "bad ones" will get you more feeling bad, and we know where that goes with our manifestations .,,.....

Actually just the act of noticing your negative e-motions without judgement, and not trying to "not feel" them will allow them to move more easily! Try it, next time you feel bad about something say to yourself.....I am where I am, and it is what it is, and, "SO WHAT, BIG DEAL", it is what it is, and it's just temporarily where I am right now! I know it will shift, it always does! "E-motions" are always "In-motion", if I let them!

Also, try thinking of your negative feeling e-motions as opportunities! Yes, opportunities to make headway on our manifestation goals! Every time you really feel one of those "gut hits" of negativity, it's an opportunity to shift your feelings about whatever subject you're thinking about! And each time you shift your feelings "up" a little you are that much closer to having what you want, and pretty soon the Law of Attraction's "positive momentum" makes it easier and easier to shift, and then, eventually you feel so good about it that it has to appear!

So, next time you have one of those previously "dreaded" negative e-motion hits, get excited and say "Yeah, another awesome opportunity to get closer to having what I want!

It's ALL Working FOR Me!``

My mantra and yours should be "It's All Working FOR Me"! Why? Well, because it is, and.....because with that belief in place, then it IS all working FOR you! The meaning you give everything in your life is the meaning you CREATE! The meaning you give things in your life IS the actual act of creation, it is the actual act of creating your reality! Think about it, all situations and circumstances, in and of themselves are neutral, except for the meaning YOU give them! You give them the meaning, the story about them! Make up a different story, make up a GOOD story, unless of course you are enjoying the bad story and wallowing in the misery and pity of others, and you know what that will get you.....more misery and things to be pitied about!

You are the one creating everything in your life, so YOU are the one making ALL the rules! If you think that someone or something else is making the rules, then you are just making their rules your rules! You are the creator of it ALL! You get what I am saying here??? Do you get the huge powerful implications here?! There are no rules except the ones YOU choose to believe in, and therefore, YOU are making ALL the rules in YOUR life, big and small! You always get to choose your own rules!!!

Just because something happened for someone else in a certain way, because they did a certain thing, does NOT mean it has to happen that way for you! Not when you know the LOA, and how what you focus on, and believe in is what comes to you! No, you know better than that, so you know to question EVERYTHING that people say about cause and effect, unless it serves YOU; meaning if it feels GOOD to think about FOR YOU! If the effect they are telling you will happen doesn't make you happy, then decide YOUR OWN effect! That is YOUR true freedom, and innate natural power as an individual creator! The cause and effect is ONLY related to YOU, and what you believe will happen from your cause!

So, if you believe that IT'S ALL WORKING FOR YOU, then everything WILL work FOR you! Just by saying and believing that, by the LOA, you WILL CREATE everything as WORKING FOR YOU! You don't need to know the how, that is NOT YOUR JOB, that is the Universe's; just know that it's all working for you, and it will! Circumstances and situations that look negative on the surface will "magically" turn around to be the best "blessings in disguise", and you will not even spend more than a minute "suffering" from them because you will know, "IT'S ALL WORKING FOR YOU"!

Just TRY it for a couple of weeks, or even days and I guarantee you WILL see evidence of EVERYTHING WORKING FOR YOU! And one more thing......it is such a RELIEF to know that EVERYTHING IS WORKING FOR YOU, just that feeling alone(and you know RELIEF is ALLOWING the GOOD to come) is worth the try! Trust me on this, I KNOW first hand of what I speak of :)!

PS: I happily welcome any comments or questions on this post and any others!

Manifesting Good Health With the Law of Attraction

........This is a response I gave to someone who asked me how I stayed healthy no matter what I did or didn't do, and I'm here to tell you I do a lot of things on a regular basis that many think are "bad" for your health(I won't go into detail but let's just say I ALWAYS do whatever I feel like doing:)! Anyway I thought it would make for a good blog post that might help others in the health and LOA area....

Enjoy and I hope you get something of value from it :)!

First thing I'll tell you here is that I am really healthy! Oh yes I get an ache or pain once in a while, and maybe a headache but it's VERY temporary! I haven't had a cold in over 5 years, and can't ever remember getting the flu since I was maybe 10 yrs old, despite(or maybe in spite of:) my husband and son getting both of these things at least 2 or 3 times a year!

I consider myself having health "handled" because I don't fear anything around my health at all anymore! I know very clearly my health is a result of how I feel, and flow energy, no matter what I do or don't do, and nothing to be afraid of, because I can always change how I feel, no big deal! I tell you this not to "brag"(although I am proud of it:), but more to "up" the "evidence factor" in what I've written so you will believe and it will work even better for you!

So, my biggest, most dominant underlying belief is that it is the most natural thing in the world to be totally healthy. Anything else is just plain odd, and only temporary! I don't affirm "perfect health" in the conventional way, I just "assume" that's the way I am supposed to be!

Our bodies are built to balance, heal and rejuvinate themselves, and I am not saying this from a metaphysical perspective, but from "scientific biological fact" perspective(for all you "scientific evidence junkies";).....think how as soon as you cut your finger the blood rushes to the surface to clean and heal it and then it "naturally" scabs and heals itself! If it works on such small things as cuts, then of course it works with the "bigger" things "gone wrong", right?! Your body is constructed like a well oiled machine that is self regulating!

Doctors know this, they know that when they give you an antibiotic, the pill doesn't "cure" you, it just enables your body to better cure itself! That's why medicines work for some and not others!

And so based on this dominant belief of "Natural Health", I know that anything that seems to be going "wrong" in my body is only temporary, and all I need to do is get out of the way so my body can do it's natural work! And getting out of the way is doing the "emotional work"!

And How Do I Get Out of My Body's Way?
1. First of all if I do get some ailment, ache, or pain I don't resist it, I don't judge or beat up on myself for having it. I just let it be what it is, and maybe even use it as an excuse to do nothing and let go of all "burdens" of busyness! The world is not going to end if you don't participate:). Don't underestimate the power of this perspective either....what you resist, persists!

2. I also don't talk about it, dwell on it, trade notes with anybody else about it either. I just let it be, and don't make a big deal about it. I make it "NO BIG DEAL", just a temporary thing that will go away!

3. I do whatever feels good for me physically, take a pill, lay down, exercise, sleep etc...... I don't judge any of it, it's all "Gods" solutions :)!

4. I take any and all imbalances in my body as really really good information from my Inner Being(guidance), and I ask myself what this imbalance is telling me! I am very grateful for my body talking to me so clearly when my "thick head" isn't "listening" to what I am dwelling on! Cause, for there to be an imbalance in the body there HAS to be an imbalance in the mind!

5. Then I ask myself what's going on in my life that relates to this ailment. Like for instance, sometimes I get tightness in my neck and shoulders, and I KNOW it's relating to my feeling like something is blocking me or is a "pain in the neck".....

And then I go to "work" on making PEACE with whatever it is that is bothering me. And sometimes I can't make peace right then, so I ask my Inner Being to show me how(while I relax:) and give me any other info I may need.

*Also, I ask myself,(per Abraham) "how does this ailment" make me feel emotionally(not physically, although that could be good info too)....for instance being sick and stuck home for a week might make you feel frustrated, or even fearful(if you lose money from it etc...), and then I ask myself "where else in my life do I feel like this"? And that would be a place to "make peace" with too.

6. And this is probably the MOST important of all of them for continued good health and reinforcement of the belief in the "Natural Good Health" of your body; I do lists of positive aspects(also per Abraham) almost every day on my body, how strong it is, how very resilient, how well put together(all parts intact:) it is, things I like about it etc....

So, in essence: I truly believe it is natural and normal to be healthy. I don't make a big deal when I am not "perfect", I know it's only temporary. I do the "physical" thing that feels best to ME. I take it as very valuable info that gives me something to "work" with, when I am not "listening" closely enough to my thoughts and emotions. I ask my guidance system to help me out, and I do major positive aspect lists on my beautiful strong body that works so well for me!

Tuesday, April 25, 2006

Relationships & Radical Freedom?

Yes! Absolutely! Relationships is one of the easiest, yes I said easiest places to see almost immediate changes from using the Law of Attraction! People in general respond really quickly because the thing about people is that; they ALL want to feel good, really, even if it doesn't seem like that by what they say and do. And.... they ALL want to be looked at with kind loving eyes, even if it doesn't seem like it by what they say and do! That said; they can tell, no matter what words your mouth is saying, how you really feel about them, ALWAYS, no exceptions! And YOU can't attract what you are NOT a match to! So.... you ALWAYS get back what you put out; again, NO EXCEPTIONS!

Now can you understand why when you are saying to your boyfriend "sweetie, it would be really nice if you helped out around the house", you are getting back defensiveness, arguments or totally ignoring you"? You are saying nice words, but.... you are thinking/feeling; "you never do anything around here, I have to do everything...blah, blah, blah! And they FEEL that, so of course you are getting that back!

So the first order of business is to acknowledge what you are really feeling so that you own up to your power here, because YOU did create it! If YOU didn't feel the way YOU did, YOU couldn't have this person here acting this way! And PLEASE, NO self-recrimination or blame, does no good except keep you feeling bad which does not get you what you want! You did create it, but heck, you're only human and most of society would feel just the way you do. So give yourself a break, stay off the blame train, and decide that it's really cool that you KNOW you created it and now you can create something else more in line with what you've just decided you want!

So then what? Well, then of course, you start thinking of this person in a way that feels better so that when you see them, they feel that. And they WILL feel it,almost right away! Take it from me, I've had some really hard cases in my life, lol! They won't know what changed but they will know that all of a sudden they just feel better around you, and will act accordingly.

But there's a few catches, there's always some, right? You have to be happy with the small changes that happen at first. You are not going to get to China in an hour, and in the same way, you are not going to go from agony to ecstasy in one fell swoop! See, I think we all have these visions or ideas of what we want in a relationship, any relationship, and when we see that it doesn't measure up all the way, we get upset and then start noticing all the ways in which it doesn't measure up, instead of looking for, and celebrating all the ways in which it does. Instead of celebrating the fact that we did attract at least some of what we wanted in this person in some important ways, and that we are learning so so much about REAL unconditional love we despair over the thought that they are not "exactly" what we want. But... and a big but here, are YOU exactly a match to what YOU are looking for?! Now there's a place for some extended self reflection and curiosity, huh?

And the other catch is; you can't care if THEY change! It's got to be enough that YOU feel better about them! We are NOT looking to change anybody else, can't do that, can't create in someone elses reality, remember?! We are ONLY trying to feel better right where we are, just the way things are, by our amazingly powerful ability to focus where WE choose! Exercise your power of FOCUS! This is a biggie people! The best of us get stuck in this one..... so you say "but I've been doing my positive aspects every day and they are stiiiilll acting like that", well, it's because you keep looking at what they are doing that you don't like, to "check" to see if it is changing. But you're stiiiilll looking! You've got to get grounded in the "good" before you start looking for the changes and chances are the changes will look for you!

One more thing about relationships that you ought to know: You could just decide to leave the person because that "feels" the best to do at the time but..... another BIG but, if you don't want to attract another person with similar qualities, you have GOT to feel better about the person you are leaving! No exceptions with this one either, we all know people(and of course WE can see what they can't), that keep attracting same person, different face and going through the same old turmoil over and over til we get sick of hearing them! It's because they haven't changed the vibration in THEM and..... "wherever YOU go, there YOU are"! And don't worry, you won't be keeping them around by feeling better about them, you WILL be aligning with what YOU WANT in a relationship by "feeling" how you would feel if you were in a happy relationship and then.... you can't help but attract a happy relationship, and... who knows it, could end up being with them!

So just get happy about them right now, right where you are, and celebrate all the little things you like about them, and all the little progress being made. And if you don't like anything about them, then as my friend Susan would say, celebrate that it "could be a LOT worse", because if you feel the least bit of relief from a thought, no matter what that thought is, YOU'VE made progress!

Things to remember:
And as I said before..... This is REALLY GOOD news!

Monday, April 24, 2006

Radical Freedom: What is it?

So radical freedom sounds extreme doesn't it? I love that because I'm pretty extreme in my beliefs, it's either all or nothing for me! Anyway, I looked up radical in the dictionary and it came up with: Arising from or going to a root or source; basic: proposed a radical solution to the problem. And I said, Yes! that's what I do with my clients, get to the root of it!

When you really know the Law of Attraction you realize that it is radical freedom, meaning you are at cause for every person place or thing in your life and I mean EVERYTHING! Really! So the bad news is that YOU have to do the changing, not anybody else and the really, really, really, did I say really(lol) good news is that; YOU have complete and utter control over every person, place, and thing that appears in your life!!!

When I really "got" this concept I was absolutely ecstatic! Wow, I have complete creative control, you mean nothing can hurt or impose itself on me unless I let it??? I can have all those things I've wanted for so long that I felt were impossible to have in the usual ways now?! I felt like I found the golden keys to the kingdom! Of course it took a while to figure out how to use the keys, but the overiding factor that makes it all so worthwhile is that I know that I am doing it all, I know what to do now, and if I keep at it I WILL get where I want to be, because it is all about me!

I don't have to make anybody or anything else do anything, think anything, be anything! And it doesn't matter what they think, how they feel, what they want, I can have what I want, and..... in the best way possible, even uplifting people in the process!!! Wow, what a relief, because honestly, I couldn't see any way to have what I want if I had to do it the other way, lol!

So, that's what "Radical Freedom" is, it's the freedom to be, do, and have what you really want, not what others want, not settle or compromise, what YOU really want in ALL areas of your life! It doesn't only work in one area and not the other, the Law of Attraction is very comforting in it's consistency. It's an inner change of perspective and feeling, not an outer. It's being willing to do the "work" to change how you feel and change your beliefs in every area and be radically FREE! But the really cool thing is that when you change how you see something, you then change how you feel about it, and then and only then, does the thing change on the outside!!! It's ALL about YOU and you CAN do it if you try!!! Really, really, really good news people!